From: Thomas Hoyt - January 20, 2002
Our lives were touched by a TBI close to 3 years ago... Since then nothing has been the same as before....and i thank god that our two children have stuck beside us,,, even the times that my husband doesn't or
can't remember, i will never forget....
But we have come a long way in spite of my husbands family's denial... Its amazing the damage this does to
whole families.... and how it keeps some blind... we just live one day at a
time. You can't even make the ones understand who you think unconditionally
should. And we have had to learn how to go on without them...
The computer has been great for talking and meeting others in similar or even worse
situations. I started writing on my husbands third day in a coma,,, and really haven't stopped, it's been my biggest outlet.... And
recently we were blessed with our first grand child,,, a girl, and my husband told me long before she was
born that he just wants her to love him the "way he is now".... He doesn't make it easy to love him still at
times... but we all try and cope and do the best we can..
It's taken awhile, but i feel alot better about things then i use to, and i still have my good and bad days, but
i know my husband does to, and i'm on his side when at times he thinks i'm against him, i wasn't and do my
best to make him see that.
He's had major personality changes, emotional swings, short term memory problems, along with a list of
others.... Self centeredness is a big one to... but he is a miracle and i know that for some reason he did live,
and it makes me feel good now to talk and help others going through this, even if they are online, i know i've
made a difference already in a few lifes....
I don't know if this is a story or not,, but i know i never planned on writing anything close to this 3 years
ago.... It does help to keep me sane and focused and that is what's important ...
Thanks for Reading
Sincerely
Mary
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